One thing that I’ve been trying to work on this year is being more positive. With that, comes self-love. I’ve always been the type to be very hard on myself. I never think I’m doing the right thing, I never think people like me… I could go on. And I know I’m not the only one! It can difficult to let go of the negative mindset that you’ve had all your life.
I don’t usually create yearly goals for myself. I’d prefer to set monthly goals for myself, because they’re easier for me to accomplish. But this year, I really want to focus on self-love and releasing negative thoughts. Which still isn’t really a goal as much as it is a lifestyle. I’m just tired of being a pessimist, so let’s change that, okay?!
In my last post, I wrote a little bit about how I’m not really a fan of Valentine’s Day. Don’t get me wrong, I love that people get excited over it and want to get a little somethin’ somethin’ for (or from 😉) their loved ones.
I think my main problem with this holiday is that it puts so much focus on love for another individual. And YES! It’s important to let others know that you love them. But like I said in my previous post, I don’t think we need one specific day to show this love.
There’s that one saying — “Fall in love with yourself before you fall in love with someone else.” I’m pretty sure that’s how it goes. When you practice self-love, you’ll 1) become more positive, 2) have more energy, and 3) learn to love your flaws. When we don’t take the time to focus on ourselves, we can get run down and lose sight of what we want.
So, this Valentine’s Day, I encourage you to take some time for yourself. Whether you’re in a relationship or not, whether you already do some of these things or not… take time out of your day to love yourself.
1. Stop comparing
This is the one that I struggle with the most, and it’s not something that can be done overnight. With all of the different social media platforms that we have nowadays, it can be hard to see what other people are doing with their lives and not become jealous. “What?! Susie got to go to Jamaica?! She knows I’ve always wanted to go there! This isn’t fair. 😠”
Just remember that people (usually) only display their happy moments. Everyone has bad days, everyone feels down. We aren’t going to put those moments on display for everyone to see. And to the people who do display those vulnerable moments: I applaud you.
2. Buy yourself flowers/chocolates/a card
This is just something fun you can do for yourself. You don’t need another person to get you flowers. You want flowers?! Buy them. You deserve ’em!
3. Take yourself out to dinner
If I ever feel like I just absolutely need to get out of the house and do something, this is most likely the one I’ll go for. I’ll go to Buffalo Wild Wings, sit at the bar, and people watch while I eat my food. Even if you want something more classy than a wing place, do it. Put on an outfit that makes you feel good and treat yourself.
4. Make a list of your favorite qualities about yourself
Part of self-love is learning to accept who you are. So often, we focus on the qualities about ourselves that we don’t like. It’s important to shed those negative thoughts and think about the things that you do like about yourself.
5. Do something you enjoy
This can be as simple as watching an episode of a TV show on Netflix or as adventurous as going rock-climbing. Just take a break from studying, work, taking care of others and do something you enjoy!
6. Fill your body with good food
When you fill your body with healthy food and water, you’ll feel better. Trust me, I want a chocolate glazed donut almost every second of the day. But if I sit down and binge on chocolate glazed donuts, I’m not going to feel great by the end of the day. I’ll feel sluggish and greasy and gross. Filling your body with foods that are good for you will just make you feel fresh and alive.
Just the act of smiling can make you feel more positive.
8. Put the phone away
This one goes along with stop comparing. Get off the phone, go outside. You can take a break from social media, text messages, emails… they’ll all be there when you get back.
9. Take a day trip
In December, I was feeling really down at one point. I just felt like I didn’t even want to wake up in the morning. So one day, I woke up, got in my car, and drove two hours away from my apartment. I didn’t have a destination in mind, I didn’t know where I was going — I just drove. And when I got back home, I felt so much better.
10. Sleep naked
Just read this article and tell me you don’t want to do this. It’s relaxing, it’s freeing, it’s AMAZING.
11. Pamper yourself
Take a bath. Put on a face mask. Get a massage. Get a manicure or a pedicure or both. You’re worth it.
12. Accept compliments
Again, this one can be extremely hard to do when we’re just used to focusing on the negative qualities about us. You may not like your brown eyes, but if someone else compliments your brown eyes… accept that damn compliment about your brown eyes! A negative quality to you could be a beautiful quality to someone else.